Tough Call
A young woman is about to graduate from high school. She has top marks and high aspirations. In order to get where she wants to go, she will need to leave home and pursue her dreams far away. Two days after she graduates, a crisis occurs. As a result, her parents are in need of her full-time support for the rest of their lives. What should the young woman do? If she stays at home, she will never rise above a grocery clerk. If she leaves, her parents face an uncertain future, but she will fulfill her potential. Is one direction morally superior to the other?
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Toughy
Staying home and loving others the same as you love yourself would be the hardest thing to do. Most would rely young woman's relationship with her parents. I can't find within myself a morally superior answer to the question. It is very difficult because to be selfless is to take care of your parents however, she had a future ahead of her. Urg!
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Well it would depend on the person themself, their relationship with the parents and their parents themselves for example if it were me, my parents and I have had talks of what I should do in such situations and though we can never fully understand ahead of time. I've been told to go ahead with my education or life not to forget or just leave them for good but to put them where they will have the best care and living enviroment and when you dig deep enough when you have to desciede what to do in these situations that involve your love ones you will usually want what is truely best for them and for what they want. It would still be a hard choice to make givin that its not an decision one can make enirely moral or logical, it involves some of both.
I'm not overly sure whether
I'm not overly sure whether or not someone has already said/done this because I didn't really "read" everyone elses hahahaha.
I would have to look at this from the parents point of veiw. As a parent I can only assume that you want the best for your children and that once they are happy you are, in turn, happy yourself. Using this knowledge I just created, I would say the parents would insist on the child going and living her life. Whether she wants to or not, she should respect her parents wishes and leave. She does not, however, have to lose touch and she can still come home on a regualr basis. At least as regular as school can allow.
Also, if this child has to take care of her parents where are our tax payers money going??!!!???!!!
A Question of Gender?
Does it make any difference that the person who will be leaving is a female? Would the decision be the same for a male? Would society treat the individual any different if it were a man who stayed at home or left to pursue his dreams?
I would say that if the
I would say that if the individual was male society would accept it more if he left. Based only on the fact that women are more nurturing(sp?).
I think that you're right.
I think that you're right. Society would probably accept it more if it were a male and he left, but I don't think it's because women are more nurturing. I think it more has to do with the fact that we still have an older society that had the idea that women should stay at home and take care of housework and cooking, their children and husbands and sometimes parents. I don't think it's right, but I think a lot of people still have that ingrained on their subconscious and it is that more the reasoning behind that gender divide, I'd believe.
-Sorcha
If she was to leave, she as
If she was to leave, she as well faces an uncertain future along with her parents. My opinion is that she should leave because life needs risk. If she were to stay then it would be similar to every graduate staying at home and having their parents not have to work. With her parents needing full time assistance, hopefully either her, or her parents have some sort of savings that could be dipped into and have a professional look after the injured properly.
This is dependant on whether
This is dependant on whether you see the role of the parents as people who nurture their child until they are ready for the real world or as the people who lay the foundation for a family that sticks together no matter what. Many people can hardly bear to move away from family as it is. It's dependant on what the girl choses to do with her success. If she becomes a neurosurgeon at a children's hospital, would it be so wrong to leave two to save hundreds? It's dependant on what the parents actually ask of her. If they want her to leave even after the accident I can't see anything immoral with doing so. I can't decide because the question is too open ended.
After saying all this, I can say that Ayn Rand would almost certainly leave her parents behind. Probably steal all their money and belongings too...
At the same time its not just
At the same time its not just leaving two people and saving hundreds of kids, the two people are her parents so it will be a hard decision for her either way.
I'm talkin from an objective
I'm talkin from an objective standpoint, not from her point of view.
That is valid too, but no
That is valid too, but no decisions are made objectively.
-Sorcha
I think that this woman
I think that this woman should stay long enough to establish some kind of other support for her parents, and then go. Every child HAS to leave the nest eventually, lest they sacrifice their independence and their ability to simply be an independent adult. If it were me, I'd check up on my parents with a phone call every week when it was possible, but I couldn't stay and be their sole support for the rest of their lives.
-Sorcha
Who is more important?
Is it the parents or the child whose happiness matters most?
Neither's happiness matters
Neither's happiness matters MORE, but there has to be a balance and compromise.
-Sorcha
But in this case it may be
But in this case it may be difficult to arrange such a compromise.
In any case, a compromise can
In any case, a compromise can be difficult, but that does not mean that it cannot be made.
Say if she were to go to school, get her degree and send money home for support for her parents. She may have to go to a less expensive school to do this, but it would benefit both parties.
-Sorcha
Getting What Everybody Needs
She should attempt to secure help for her parents in every way possible, then go fufill her dreams. It will do no one any good if this girl is a grocery clerk for the rest of her life, but once she has obtained a decient amount of schooling she should return to again support her parents from a more advantageous position.
case by case
I think it would probably be considered more virtuous to stay to support her parents. On the other hand, I think in a way her parents would be more unhappy to see their daughter trapped, and not fufilling her potential. Plus, she may be able to find a way to help her parents even from a distance, but still get started on a better career. I think it depends on the age of the parents, and the type of people they are, as well as what will make the daughter happy
I think that the parents
I think that the parents would most likely want her to move out and fullfill her potential. In the end, its up to the woman's decision whether or not to leave. There is really no moral superior direction in this situation because it deals with self-determination and private matters.
Dang, sorry. Totally jacked
Dang, sorry. Totally jacked your idea.
privacy
Don't most moral situations deal with private matters? Because morals and ethics are not a matter of what you can get away with behind closed doors, but always trying to do the 'right' or 'good' thing?
The point is still valid. If
The point is still valid. If the parents want her to go then it is entirely up to her what she should do.
Is the woman the only one
Is the woman the only one that can help? I mean, there will most likely be people that can help the family.
One can assume that with considering her academic standings and her high dreams she has beeen brought up in a strong household and her parents themselves would encourage her to go.
I feel that she should do
I feel that she should do whatever she thinks will make her happy. If it were me, I would move. My parents are fairly old anyway, both over 60. Plus, I truly believe that they would support me in that decision.
-T
What would make her happy
She should do what makes her happy.
If her parents care about her then i think they would support her in leting her move out. If her parents want to do what is best for her they will let her grow/ move on.
LAWL REPLY XD
I think she should stay with her parents as they had kept care of her untill that graduation and it is because of them that she got where she was to start with and she could hire a baby sitter or besides she could always start an online buisness >:O and society would frown upon leaving your vegitablish parents who can still feel joy and pain and sadness
-C.G
i dont agree,beacuse the fact
i dont agree,beacuse the fact of the parents taking care of her when she was little dosent really matter,cause thats what parents do, besides they made the choice of not having a baby sitter, it was not hers
multiple causes of sadness
do you think it's possible that seeing their daughter not living out her own life, not going to university, or graduating, or finding a good job, or making new friends, or traveling, or getting married could bring the parents even more sadness?
well ya
but sometimes you need to put others before yourself sacrifices must be made to help the ones you love and even if it does bring the parents some form of grief there must be pride in there somewhere knowing that you have made a choice to help others.
I certainly do. Really it
I certainly do. Really it depends upon the nature of the accident.
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I also think she should do whatever would make her happy~
If her parents are older and have already lived thier lives I think she should go (thats what I would do) Plus I'm sure most parents dont want to feel like they are holding thier child back. :]
I agree. I think most parents
I agree. I think most parents want to see their children thrive and succeed, rather than hold their child back from the things that they've raised him or her to be and/or do.
-Sorcha
i think the society will see
i think the society will see better the fact of the young lady stay with her parents and help them,but i think the correct thing to do its to go
and study and with that maybe she would be able to help her family more than if she stay back with them
Benifits?
I agree with Danilela because what if financial issues came into play. If She was working as a clerk getting minumum wage, she wouldn't be able to pay medical or even house bills once her parents become incapable. If she went to school and became a lawyer it would be more benifical than a clerk.
downward spiral
I agree with you guys too because staying and getting stuck in a minimum wage job sounds like a downward spiral in to debt and misery
age of parents
I am interested in how the age of your parents plays a role in your decision making process. What if your parents were younger, say 40ish? How would that alter your plan of action?
Age related social support
If the parents were older, say over 60, it would certainly be easier to find someone, maybe even a gov't funded nursing home to care for them. If the parents were in their 40s this might not be the case, and this *might* affect my decision making process. I might choose a university as close as possible to home, but I certtainly would not forgo university all together, as working as a clerk would make it impossible to support 3 people.
~Riz
Probably not. But it helps
Probably not. But it helps eliminate guilt. I think I would go either way.
-T
Even if my parents were 70
Even if my parents were 70 and over they still would not let me look after them for too long because they want me to live my own life and not look after some "old foggys".
I think it would be possible
I think it would be possible to go and get education as well as work and try and support your parents . Alot of people work while in university anyways. Why not help them out as best she can while still attending school.