A Byte on the side
A byte on the side
Like many people who had been married for several years, Dion was bored with his relationship. There was no passion these days. However, Dion had no intention whatsoever of leaving his wife. He loved her and she was an excellent mother to their children.
He knew full well what the usual solution to this problem was: have an affair. You simply accept that your wife satisfies some of your needs and your mistress others. But Dion really didn’t want to go behind his wife’s back, and he also knew that she could not deal with an open relationship even if he could.
So when Dion heard about Byte on the Side Inc. (“even better than the real thing”) he had to take it seriously. What the company offered was the opportunity to conduct a virtual affair. Not cyber sex with a real person at the other end of the computer connection, but a virtual reality environment in which you “slept with” a completely simulated person. It would feel just like real sex, but, in fact, all your experiences would be caused by computers stimulating your brain to make it seem to you as though you were having sex. All the thrills of an affair, but with no third person, and hence no real infidelity. Why should he say no?
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He should say no because he
He should say no because he is cheating on his wife nonetheless. It wouldn't matter that it would be with a machine, just the fact that he was even thinking about it in the first place is wrong. He should say no because of his childrens future and the fact that his wife is an amazing mother!
It still is a form of
It still is a form of infidelity. When a couple gets married, they are joined together in holy matrimony until death, for better or for worse. As it would seem they are going through the later. Though it seems simple and harmless at first, perhaps later an add would come up on the site, leading Dion to click it, or even the simulation is better than the real thing with his wife and he starts looking for more, both could potentially lead him to late night street corners.
What if they were married by
What if they were married by a judge? Would that make a difference to you? Because then it isn't "holy matrimony" but they're still married. Or is that the only way you see marriage?
~Sorcha
Married by a judge or even
Married by a judge or even common law is fine. I just used holy matrimony as an example
He should say no because his
He should say no because his wife will be angry with him and therefore send him to the preverbial "dog house". Then she'd probably block him from getting to this site and he would end up with having no satisfaction instead of plenty. On the other hand, he could let his wife use this site and then they both would be semi-cheating and it would cancel itself out so that there would be no affiar at all.
I would say an affair is not
I would say an affair is not only physical, but rather a combanation of the satisfaction of physical touch and the knowledge that you're doing something new and exciting. The idea that a person can have an affair without touch then i would say that that is one-half an affair. One-half is the same as 0.5 and 0.5 rounds up so one whole affair.
Just because the way the
Just because the way the husband is having an affair changes doesnt mean the emotional damage done to the wife would. Knowing your husband not only wants but needs to be satisfied elsewhere would make the wife feel insecure and inadequate. Depending on the couples view of marraige it would not work. Some people think that when your committed to someone through marriage its because they are the person who is most compatable and fulfills all of your needs.
Hell, thats just bad... :\
Even if it was just stimulations of the brain, it is still cheating in some form. If he gose through with it he might feel guilty for some unknown reason, and if he says no he would feel good about him self for not going through with it....
Besides, he could just be open with his wife that thier love life has gotten a little dull and try somthing new... just a sejestion.. O_o
Please don't be offended. :D
The way I see it, it is electronic sexual stimulation. So, basically just like masturbation using a sex toy. I personally wouldn't expect my husband to cry in the corner every time I decided to spend some quality time with a vibrator...
personality
I see your point for sure, however, would it make a difference if he thought of the computer as some sort of live being he felt affectionate towards? Just wondering.
secrets and guilt
This is a hard question but I guess it boils down to the question "what is infidelity?" Is it entirely physical, or emotional or some combination? If it's based partly on emotion which I believe, the fact that he feels like he can't tell his wife shows that he's doing something that would upset his wife emotional. As a faithfull husband it's his job to protect her, and do things that cause her unhappiness or distress. She should do the same. Secrets and guilt are signs that's it's a bad idea.
Why not :0
I think its perfectly fine... Hell I wanna try too D:
Why do you think its fine? Do
Why do you think its fine? Do you believe that sex is only physical connection with no emotional standings?
NO PROBLEM =D
it isnt even a relationship your not emotionally attached or anything so i see no problem with this scenario hell im sure if he told his wife she would try to
I don't know how to respond to this...
I don't think I'd like it if my husband went through with that... I don't know whether I could say if it was wrong or right... but it would feel like emotional infidelity...
~Sorcha
Why should he go through
Why should he go through with it or not even if you didnt know about it happening? If you were him would you say the same thing?
If I were him, I would think
If I were him, I would think about how it would emotionally damage my wife should she ever find out. And besides, hiding things is bad for a relationship.
I think I have to say "no" to this one.
~Sorcha
it dosent matter if he makes
it dosent matter if he makes it with a computer or a real person, the fact that he dosent think that her wife dosent fill his necesities and try to get it from some other place i think its a infidelity and it is with a computer it might not be physical but it is emotional.
I concur
I think that about sums up my feelings about it.
~Sorcha